Early Warning Signs of Abuse - Family Service Toronto

Your partner makes you feel uncomfortable by:*
- Telling you what to do or not do, where to go or not go
- Telling you who to be friends with
- Telling you what clothes to wear and how to wear your hair and make-up
- Telling you how to act
- Telling you who to talk to or not talk to
- Wanting you to tell them where you've been
- Phoning you to make sure you are where you said you would be
- Phoning you a lot each day
- Telling you what time to come home
- Not telling you when he is coming over
- Making all the big decisions
- Following you around
- Making you do something you don't want to do
- None of the above
Your partner does not give you time alone by:*
- Going through your things
- Listening to your phone calls
- Opening your mail and email
- Reading your diary
- wanting to know what you say to others word for word
- Not leaving you along - following you everywhere
- Asking friends and family about what you do
- None of the above
Your partner hurts your friendships with others by:*
- Telling you lies about what your friends have said about you
- Not wanting you to go out with your friends without him/her
- Being mean to your friends so that they will stop visiting you
- Starting a fight with you right before you leave to go out with a friend
- Putting down your friends
- Telling you not to see your counsellor or social worker
- Not wanting you to meet his/her friends
- Wanting you to choose between them and your friends
- Not giving you messages
- None of the above
Your partner wants you to need him/her by:*
- Taking control of the money
- Not wanting you to work
- Not wanting you to have your own bank account
- Telling you that you are stupid and can't make it on your own
- Telling you "no one else will love you"
- Telling you to quit school
- None of the above
Does your partner show other warning signs?*
- Doesn't like him/herself very much
- Hurts your feelings
- Blames you and others for his/her mistakes
- Gets angry a lot
- Doesn't care for others' feelings
- Acts tough or not interested
- Cares so much that he becomes controlling
- Want's to 'own you' and is very jealous of what you do with others
- Seems to be obsessed with you; has to be a part of everything you do
- Doesn't want you to go anywhere without him/her
- Finds it hard to share his/her feelings well
- Doesn't listen to you when you talk
- None of the above